My favorite photo of all time!
Let me ask you a question. Wait, let me ask all you guys out there a question. Why is it so gosh darn hard to find a glimmer of romance inside the male makeup? You would think that God, being all-knowing, when he created man and women would have put a dash more romancing in Adam’s ingredient listing knowing how much Eve was going to want a little more than a butt grab and a good game to get things warmed up! All you women out there know what I am talking about! Sure Luke is all back rubs and “honey I love you’s” when he knows that some good Nook is in the books, but when it is just day-to-day I might be lucky to get a goodnight kiss and a “sleep good baby” before the snoring breaks out like angry villagers drumming the night away. I am definitely not a girl I would classify as “High Maintenance”. I don’t need materialistic things to define the love between Luke and I but, come on, a flower arrangement or surprise date here and there wouldn’t kill him! I asked him last night when the last time he bought me flowers was, “I don’t know”, when was the last time you took me on a date that you planned and I didn’t know anything about, “I don’t know”. Sometimes I think that because Luke and I never really dated, in the practical sense, because we had a long distance relationship, we didn’t set up traditional standards about going on dates. I don’t think that Luke and I have ever been on a traditional date. Romance isn’t going to ruin my marriage by any means, I love love love Luke, but every girl wants to be reminded why they fell head over heals for the man of their dreams right? Why is it so hard for some guys to think out of the box and try news things to show their woman how much they love them? I am not sure how many of you out there have ever read about the 5 Love Languages but Dr. Gary Chapman has written a book about 5 different types of love people respond to based on their personality. They Are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. I have always perceived myself as a Quality Time person, and Luke is definitely and Acts of Service person. It makes it hard in our relationship because we both respond to the one kind of love the other one has a difficult time giving. We have become better about reading the signals to what each one of us needs from the other but it definitely is something the two of us have to work on quite a bit through out our marriage. If you care to read more about the 5 Love Languages check out http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/ You can find the definitions for each Love Language and find more info about the Author. Maybe one of these days I can find the magical equation that brings out the Romance Guru in Luke…Until then Romance is quite the “Novel” Idea in our house! As I got to researching more on Romance I came across a National Geographic Video from Jodi Cobb, a photographer, whose job is to photograph “love”. It completely struck me. I totally recommend checking it out! http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/ngm/0602/feature2/multimedia.html Lovelycourtb
